5 ways to deal with stress that won't go away

How to deal with stress

 When you're under the weight of stress, simple tasks can seem overwhelming; Getting out of bed, showering, or leaving the house requires a Herculean effort. A sad life is waking up every morning with a pain in your chest and a feeling of exhaustion after many hours of sleep.

The problems you are facing may seem difficult, such as financial ruin, chronic illness, or the loss of a loved one. Those threats can make discouragement a way of life. Understandably, many people, eager to escape the hopelessness caused by depression, turn to drugs or alcohol for relief. Unfortunately, when they think about it, they realize that the problems they were running from are worse.

 

What to do if the sadness does not go away? 

Don't panic. Recently, a loved one was diagnosed with an incurable disease. I fell down in shock. It was unimaginable. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't believe it. How could someone I love so much get such a bad diagnosis?

I left the world and stopped talking to my friends and family. I also turned my back on my Buddhist brothers, who called me relentlessly and tried to cheer me up. It was as if a part of my heart had been broken and fell out, leaving me with an open wound that appeared to never heal. "Why is this happening?" I thought. "I am a good person. Shouldn't I rid myself of these sorrows?

 Over time, as I began to connect with others facing similar challenges, I was forced to acknowledge a difficult truth: All lives are eventually affected by the tragedy. The most painful obstacles in life come from a violent opportunity.

 After a long period of recovery, I stopped asking "Why me?" and I began to ask "Why not me? Did I really think that I would be freed from public trials? Was it the humiliation that led me to believe that my family would be saved when others were not? how ignorant of me to think that other families must suffer but my family is an exception.

Over time, grief began to show a benefit: greater empathy and understanding for the suffering of others. I left behind the misconception that we are all safe from evil; we are all equally weak. In fact, by revealing this problem, we discover the deepest parts of our humanity.

 live in sorrow

I wish I could say I got over the sadness I felt. But the truth is that I have to learn to live. As a young and experienced doctor, I believed that there was a solution to every problem. Now I know how stupid I am. No happy ending lasts forever.

 

Deep sadness has a negative and punishing quality. Getting back on your feet will fight your worst demons. Although you may not be able to solve the problems you are facing, here are some tools to weaken the control of sadness in your heart.

 

5 ways to deal with stress

These coping strategies for stress, can bring relief and open an opportunity for healing.

 1. Take your sadness for a ride

 Once a day, do your best to get out of the house to get some fresh air. Brisk walking increases your metabolism, stimulates endorphins, and gives you the mental space you need. De-stressing and getting vitamin D can also provide relief. Stress can take our life away its batter to cure it early

2. Write your words of sorrow 

When I can't find words to express sadness, I turn to poets and writers who are good at capturing difficult emotions. Finding words to express your grief provides comfort and solace. As Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth: "Give sad words; the unspoken pain that oppresses the heart and tells it to break.

3. Honor your grief

Please don't deny it. Don't push it away. When you express your sadness, you also take away some of his power over you.

 For example, a struggling friend told me, "Today is a dark day. I think I should be alone. I understood what he meant and I was glad that he shared his true feelings instead of "playing around" with good feelings. When he honored his sorrow, I could too.

4. Look for the brothers

 Isolation feeds sadness. Seek the company of people who share your experience. Religious organizations or support groups like AA or Al-Anon are free and give you the opportunity to connect with others. As the Buddhist monk Nichiren Daishonin wrote, "Even a weak man does not stumble if those who support him are strong, but a very strong man, if he is alone, it can go down in an uneven way."

5. Avoid toxic attitudes

 A patient told me at his weekly meeting that a friend of mine cheerfully told him, “Don't worry, everything will be fine. These words may comfort; they had the opposite effect.

 "I know he means well," he said, "but I felt a strong urge to punch him in the face."

 His chronic illness will not improve. Phrases like "Everything happens for a reason" don't hurt those who are really suffering. Life's most vexing problems can be solved with a good attitude, but they cannot be solved with just one. The bitterness of others is insulting when you are dealing with overwhelming pain.

 

Finally, you can learn to fly with bad wings. Stress can take your breath away, but when accepted and handled properly, it can also lift you up.